#Managing #Self in #Crisis?

It is difficult enough to manage a major life transition that was planned, but what can you do when one enters your life through crisis?

Everything changes. What defines a crisis is critical and abrupt #change.

The depth and complexity of your crisis will eventually determine what you will do and how long it will take to do it but, the steps in managing it emotionally are the same which are as follows:

1. Step Back

The first thing you could do is step back from the situation and realistically assess two things.

a)   Become an observer and

b)   see your crisis from an outward perspective.

A #technique with a step by step process that can come in handy is as follows:

     i.       Detach yourselves totally and imagine that you have moved out of your own body.

    ii.       Now start observing yourself .

   iii.       As you start observing yourself you will notice that your pain is reducing because of this dissociation from your self.

   iv.       You will notice that only the ‘other you’ is actually in pain and not you.

    v.       As you start feeling a reduction in stress, pain and anguish you will start feeling relaxed. And as you start feeling completely relaxed, you will be able to start looking at options, think of ideas.............

   vi.       Every experience, every feeling has a structure.

  vii.       You have a choice to #neutralize these feelings and change your experience of and with the world.

2. What is the worst that can happen at this point?

The key here is to accept your answer as a mere factual statement. Turn off your emotional attachment to the situation as best you can by being your own mediator between your thoughts and the real world.

That is not the same as suppressing your emotions; it just means that you have to be able to think through them and not with them. This is especially true when your expectations of the worst case scenario are exaggerated.

Today, many are facing this with financial crisis. The truth however, is that you have probably never gone hungry and never will. You have probably never gone without a roof over your head and will not now too. You may have to learn to do things differently, yes.

The #Quality of your #life is the quality of your communication to self and to others.

3. What is the best possible outcome?

Every crisis contains an equal amount of opportunity if you take the time to find it. I have experienced several significant crises in my life. In some I was able to see this right away and in others it took quite some time. Have faith that it will happen though. Play with that idea for awhile.

So, what if you had to move? maybe it would become a great adventure in your life. What kind of story will this create to tell your grandchildren some day?

Every #problem can be turned out into an #opportunity.

4. What can I do?

If there is something within your power to change for the better, then do it. Really introspect to find an answer. Often it is closer than you think. Sometimes though, the only thing you have the power to change is what is going on in your own mind.

One of the best questions I have found out and learnt to ask which could help is :

What can I do differently??

This sets your thinking ball rolling and you start finding out new approaches; different approaches.

5. Ask for #help.

Admitting that you don’t know what to do is the first step in finding out what to do. You were not meant to live this life alone. There are people surrounding you every day, who would leap at the opportunity to help you if you would only ask.

Ask questions to yourself like in the previous or to others. Many people who are not able to come out of any crisis or problems are those who do not ask questions or ask for help.. they presume that people may not help......... help can be in any form, physical, mental, financial. If you have some one to lend his or her shoulder for you to cry and vent out your feelings or frustrations is also help....

6. Be #flexible.

You have to accept the fact that crisis is a way of leading you to a new path, a new direction. Be willing to look down that road and see what is waiting for you there. It will be a road full of emotions both good and bad, but it will also be a road full of life lessons learned and the opportunity for walking a path of wisdom and arriving at a newer and better you.

Every crisis is an opportunity to rebuild a new you. Embrace that as the chance to grow into more than you were yesterday and a vision of what you could be tomorrow. The possibilities are endless and ALWAYS there is something positive that can be created from even the most stressful or tragic of times.

If one approach does not give result, stop sticking to the same approach.

Adopt a different #approach, a new approach. Nothings or no one stops you from adopting a new approach ( as long as it is within the boundaries of law and morality).

Remember: There are no #failures; there are no failures in life, relationship, business. Only #feedback, results. You always end up getting a result ( well it may not be a desired result though). So till you get the desired results keep attempting new approaches.

Happy Learning and Best wishes to you and your dear ones for the festive season.